Kuchokera ku harvard kunyumba: Zomwe Tingaphunzire pa Phunziro la Harvard (Ndipo chifukwa chiyani mwana wanu ayenera kuyeretsa kuchimbudzi)

Timadziŵa kuti pali zambiri zimene tingachite kuti tilere ndi kuphunzitsa ana athu, ndichifukwa chake monga makolo nthawi zambiri timachita khama kuti tikwaniritse nthawi yawo ndi ntchito zolemeretsa komanso makalasi. Chifukwa chiyani timachita izi? Pazifukwa zambiri ndithudi, koma cholinga chachikulu ndikuonetsetsa kuti tsogolo lawo likuyenda bwino. Makolo amayembekezera kuti ana awo adzachita bwino kwambiri m’moyo kuposa mmene analili iwowo. Kupambana, kumene, ndi subjective, ndipo tonse titha kukhala ndi tanthauzo lathu lachipambano. Nthawi zambiri komabe, tikhoza kuvomereza kuti kupambana kumaphatikizapo kukhutira ndi moyo waumwini, komanso kukhala ndi malingaliro okhutira ndi ntchito komanso chitetezo chandalama.

Posachedwapa pakhala pali nkhani yochititsa chidwi ya TED Talk yomwe ikugawidwa pa TV, komwe kale anali Dean of Freshman ku yunivesite ya Stanford, Julie Lythcott-Haims, imatchula umboni wochokera ku Harvard Grant Study yomwe imagwirizanitsa kupambana kwaukatswiri m'moyo ndi anthu omwe adagwira ntchito zapakhomo ali ana. Osati maphunziro a mpira, osati kuphunzira chinenero, osati kujambula, koma ntchito zapakhomo.

Kulondola kodabwitsa?

Ambiri mwa ana athu omwe amakulira m'mizinda ikuluikulu sangadziwe momwe zimakhalira kutsuka mbale, kutsuka zenera, kapena kukolopa pansi. Tingaone ngati pali zinthu zofunika kwambiri zoti tichite kuti tiziwadziwa bwino komanso makhalidwe awo. Lythcott-Haims akufotokoza kuti ana amene amadetsa manja awo, komabe, angafike pamlingo wachipambano m’moyo kuposa anzawo osagwira ntchito yapakhomo. Zili choncho chifukwa imaphunzitsa ophunzira momwe angathandizire komanso kulimbikira ntchito ikafunika kuchitidwa, ndi kuti kuchita “ntchito yonyodola” imene ena angainyoze, chifukwa ndi zomwe zili zabwino kwa onse, ndi zomwe zimawonedwa m'malo antchito.

Malo ogwirira ntchito a ochita bwino kwambiri omwe adachita nawo Phunziro la Harvard Grant anali odziwika, monga White House, komwe Purezidenti Kennedy adagwira ntchito, ndi ofesi ya mkonzi pomwe Ben Bradlee adakhala ngati mkonzi wa The Washington Post. Tikhoza kuganiza kuti makolo awo, monga ife, adayenera kuthamangitsa ndikuchonderera kuti ntchito zapakhomo zichitike, ndi kuvomereza zimenezo ngakhale zitachitidwa, mwina sanachite bwino; ndipo izo ziri bwino.

Chofunika kwambiri, monga Lythcott-Haims akunenera, ndiko kuchita ntchito zapakhomo, ana amazindikira kuti iwo, "... ayenera kugwira ntchito ya moyo kuti akhale gawo la moyo." Amazindikira kuti moyo sumangowachitikira, ndi kwa iwo, koma ndi iwo.

Ngati ana anu akugwira kale ntchito zapakhomo monga gawo la zochitika zawo zatsiku ndi tsiku zachilimwe, bravo! Muli panjira yoyenera. Ngati ayi, palibe chifukwa choopa. Sitinachedwe kuyambitsa ntchito zapakhomo m'miyoyo ya ana athu. Nawa malangizo okuthandizani kuti muyambe!

Asiyeni Iwo Akhale Gawo la Iwo

Poyambitsa lingaliro la ana anu kumaliza ntchito zapakhomo kuthandiza, khalani ndi “msonkhano wabanja” kumene aliyense amakhalapo kuti akambirane zimene ana anu angayembekezere ndiponso chifukwa chake. Mungathe kupempha mwana wanu kuti akuthandizeni kulemba mndandanda wa ntchito zapakhomo zomwe angathandize panyumba. Angakudabwitseni ndi chidwi chawo chifukwa kugwira ntchito zapakhomo kumakhala kosangalatsa kwa ana ena chifukwa kumawapangitsa kumva kuti ali ndi mphamvu komanso zothandiza. (zinthu ziwiri zomwe nthawi zambiri timakonda kumva ngati akuluakulu).

Game-ify Iwo

Kupangitsa zinthu kukhala zosangalatsa, chifukwa zosangalatsa zimapangitsa zonse kukhala bwino, inuyo kapena mwana wanu mukhoza kulemba ntchito zapakhomo pa timitengo ta popsicle ndipo tsiku lililonse mwana wanu akhoza kusankha ndodo imodzi kuchokera mumtsukowo. Imeneyo idzakhala ntchito yawo ya tsikulo! Ngati muli ndi ana oposa mmodzi kunyumba, nthawi zonse mutha kusintha kuyeretsa kukhala mpikisano pokhazikitsa chowerengera ndikuwona mwana yemwe angatsutse zoseweretsa kwambiri munthawi yomwe mwapatsidwa., Mwachitsanzo.

Mpatseni mphoto Izo

Monga makolo, timalipidwa chifukwa cha zopereka zathu kuntchito ndi malipiro. Kodi ana athunso sayenera kulipidwa chifukwa cha khama lawo? Lingaliro limodzi ndi lakuti ngati mwana wanu amaliza ntchito zake zonse zapakhomo pamlungu, akhoza kusankha chidole chaching'ono kuchokera mu "bokosi la chuma" lodzaza ndi zoseweretsa zazing'ono. Njira ina ingakhale ngati mwana wanu akugwira ntchito zapakhomo mosalekeza kwa mwezi umodzi, akhoza kusankha ulendo wapadera wabanja.

Kuphunzitsa ana athu ntchito zapakhomo sikophweka nthawi zonse, koma mapindu omwe angakhalepo ndi ofunika nthaŵi ndi khama. Tikukhulupirira kuti mwapeza malangizo athu othandiza, ndi kuti angathandize kutsogolera ku chokumana nacho chabwino kwa inu ndi mwana wanu. Kuyeretsa kosangalatsa!