Siyazi ukuthi kuningi esingakwenza ukukhulisa nokufundisa izingane zethu, yingakho njengabazali sivame ukwenza imizamo emikhulu ukuze sigcwalise isikhathi sabo ngemisebenzi ecebisayo namakilasi. Kungani senza lokhu? Ngezizathu eziningi kunjalo, kodwa umgomo oyinhloko uwukuqinisekisa impumelelo yabo yesikhathi esizayo. Abazali banethemba lokuthi izingane zabo zizophumelela nakakhulu ekuphileni kunabo. Impumelelo, kunjalo, kuyinto subjective, futhi sonke singaba nencazelo yethu yempumelelo. Nokho, ngokuvamile, singase sivume ukuthi impumelelo ihlanganisa ukuzwa okuqukethwe empilweni yomuntu siqu, kanye nokuba nomuzwa wokwaneliseka emsebenzini kanye nokuvikeleka ngokwezimali.
Muva nje kube ne-TED Talk ethokozisayo okwabelwana ngayo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, lapho owayeyiDini likaFreshman eStanford University, UJulie Lythcott-Haims, icaphuna ubufakazi be-Harvard Grant Study obuhlobanisa impumelelo yobungcweti ekuphileni kubantu abenze imisebenzi yasekhaya njengezingane. Hhayi ukuqeqeshwa kwebhola, hhayi ukufunda ulimi, hhayi ukudweba, kodwa imisebenzi.
Ilungelo elimangalisayo?
Izingane zethu eziningi ezikhulela emadolobheni amakhulu zingase zingazi ukuthi kunjani ukukhuhla isidlo, geza iwindi, noma kolobha phansi. Singase sibe nomuzwa wokuthi kunezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okufanele zenziwe ukwakha ulwazi lwabo kanye nesimilo sabo. ULythcott-Haims uyachaza ukuthi lezo zingane ezingcolisa izandla, nokho, bangase bafinyelele izinga lempumelelo ekuphileni elidlula ontanga yabo abangawenzi umsebenzi wabo. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi ifundisa abafundi ukuthi bafake isandla kanjani futhi bakhuphuke lapho umsebenzi udinga ukwenziwa, kanye nokwenza “umsebenzi wokuklolodela” abanye abangawuhleka usulu, ngoba yikho okulungele wonke umuntu, yikho okubonwayo emsebenzini.
Izindawo zokusebenza zabaphumelele kakhulu ababambe iqhaza ocwaningweni lwe-Harvard Grant Study zaziphawuleka, njengeWhite House, lapho uMongameli Kennedy owayebambe iqhaza asebenza khona, kanye nehhovisi lomhleli lapho uBen Bradlee ehleli khona njengomhleli weThe Washington Post. Singacabanga ukuthi abazali babo, njengathi, kwadingeka aqhube futhi acele ukuthi imisebenzi yenziwe, futhi akwamukele lokho noma ngabe kwenziwa, kungenzeka abenziwanga kahle; futhi lokho kulungile.
Into ebalulekile, njengoba uLythcott-Haims ebonisa, lokho ngokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, izingane ziyabona ukuthi, "... kufanele wenze umsebenzi wempilo ukuze ube yingxenye yempilo." Bayabona ukuthi ukuphila akwenzeki kubo, futhi kubo, kodwa nge bona.
Uma izingane zakho sezivele zenza imisebenzi yasekhaya njengengxenye yendlela yazo yansuku zonke yasehlobo, bravo! Usendleleni efanele. Uma kungenjalo, asikho isidingo sokwethuka. Akukephuzi kakhulu ukwethula imisebenzi ezimpilweni zezingane zethu. Nawa amanye amathiphu angakusiza ukuthi uqalise!
Mababe Ingxenye Yakho
Lapho wethula umqondo wokuthi izingane zakho ziqeda imisebenzi yasekhaya ukusiza, yiba “nomhlangano womkhaya” lapho wonke umuntu ekhona ukuze nixoxe ngalokho okulindelwe ezinganeni zenu nokuthi kungani. Ungakwazi ukucela ingane yakho ukuthi ikusize ekubhaleni uhlu lwemisebenzi engase isize ngayo endlini. Bangase bakumangaze ngesasasa labo njengoba ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya kujabulisa kakhulu kwezinye izingane ngoba kubenza bazizwe benamandla futhi bewusizo. (izinto ezimbili esivame ukuthanda ukuzizwa njengabantu abadala).
I-Game-ify It
Ukwenza izinto zibe mnandi, ngoba ubumnandi benza konke kube ngcono, wena noma ingane yakho ningabhala imisebenzi ezintini ze-popsicle futhi usuku ngalunye ingane yakho ingakhetha induku eyodwa embizeni. Lokho kuzoba umsebenzi wabo wosuku! Uma unezingane ezingaphezu kweyodwa ekhaya, ungakwazi njalo ukuguqula ukuhlanza kube umncintiswano ngokusetha isibali sikhathi futhi ubone ukuthi iyiphi ingane engahlanza amathoyizi amaningi ngesikhathi esinikeziwe, Ngokwesibonelo.
Livuze
Njengabazali, siklonyeliswa ngamagalelo ethu emsebenzini ngeholo. Akufanele yini izingane zethu ziklonyeliswe ngomsebenzi wazo onzima? Omunye umqondo uwukuthi uma ingane yakho iqeda yonke imisebenzi yayo yesonto, angakhetha ithoyizi elincane “ebhokisini lomcebo” eligcwele amathoyizi amancane. Enye inketho kungaba ukuthi uma ingane yakho iqeda njalo imisebenzi yasekhaya inyanga yonke, bangakhetha uhambo lomndeni olukhethekile.
Ukufundisa izingane zethu ukwenza imisebenzi akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa izinzuzo ezingase zibe khona zisifanele isikhathi nomzamo. Sithemba ukuthi uthole amathiphu ethu ewusizo, nokuthi bangasiza ekuholeleni kokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kwakho nengane yakho. Ukuhlanza okujabulisayo!
