Ua ʻike mākou he nui nā mea hiki iā mākou ke hana e hānai a hoʻonaʻauao i kā mākou mau keiki, ʻo ia ke kumu e hele pinepine ai mākou i nā mākua e hoʻopiha i ko lākou manawa me nā hana hoʻonui a me nā papa. No ke aha mākou e hana ai i kēia? No nā kumu he nui, akā, ʻo ka pahuhopu nui e hōʻoia i ka holomua o ka wā e hiki mai ana. Manaʻo nā mākua e ʻoi aku ka pōmaikaʻi o kā lākou mau keiki i ke ola ma mua o lākou iho. Pōmaikaʻi, ʻae nō hoʻi, he kumuhana, a loaʻa paha iā kākou ka wehewehe ponoʻī o ka holomua. ʻO ka maʻamau naʻe, hiki iā mākou ke ʻae ʻo ka kūleʻa e pili ana i ka manaʻo ʻoluʻolu i ke ola pilikino, me ka loaʻa ʻana o ka manaʻo o ka ʻoihana a me ka palekana kālā.
I kēia mau lā, ua hōʻike ʻia kahi TED Talk e kaʻana like ʻana ma ka pāhana kaiapili, kahi Dean o Freshman ma ke Kulanui ʻo Stanford, Julie Lythcott-Haims, hōʻike i nā hōʻike mai ka Harvard Grant Study e pili ana i ka holomua ʻoihana i ke ola i nā poʻe i hana i nā hana ma ke ʻano he kamaliʻi. ʻAʻole aʻo pōpeku, ʻaʻole aʻo ʻōlelo, ʻaʻole pena, akā, nā hana.
Kahaha pololei?
ʻAʻole ʻike paha ka hapa nui o kā mākou mau keiki e ulu ana ma nā kūlanakauhale nui i ke ʻano o ka holoi ʻana i kahi kīʻaha, holoi i ka puka makani, a mop i ka papahele. Manaʻo paha mākou he mau mea nui aʻe e hana e kūkulu i ko lākou ʻike a me ko lākou ʻano. Ua wehewehe ʻo Lythcott-Haims i kēlā mau keiki i haumia i ko lākou mau lima, akā naʻe, hiki ke kiʻekiʻe o ka holomua i ke ola ma mua o ko lākou mau hoa hana ʻole. ʻO ia no ke aʻo ʻana i nā haumāna pehea e hāʻawi a piʻi i luna i ka wā e pono ai ka hana, a ʻo ka hana ʻana i ka "hana ʻōhumu" e hoʻomāʻewaʻewa ai kekahi, no ka mea, ʻo ia ka mea maikaʻi no nā mea a pau, ʻo ia ka mea i ʻike ʻia ma ka wahi hana.
Ua kaulana nā wahi hana o nā poʻe kiʻekiʻe i komo i ka Harvard Grant Study, e like me ka Hale Keʻokeʻo, kahi i hana ai ka Pelekikena Kennedy, a me ke keʻena hoʻoponopono i noho ai ʻo Ben Bradlee ma ke ʻano he luna hoʻoponopono o The Washington Post. Hiki iā mākou ke manaʻo i ko lākou mau mākua, e like me mākou, pono e paipai a noi aku i na hana, a e ʻae aku inā ua pau lākou, ʻaʻole paha i hana maikaʻi ʻia; a ua maikaʻi kēlā.
ʻO ka mea nui, e like me kā Lythcott-Haims i kuhikuhi ai, ʻo ia ma ka hana ʻana i nā hana, ʻike nā keiki iā lākou, "… pono e hana i ka hana o ke ola i mea e lilo ai i ʻāpana o ke ola." ʻIke lākou ʻaʻole hiki wale ke ola iā lākou, a no lakou, aka me lakou.
Inā hana kāu mau keiki i nā hana ma ke ʻano he hana maʻamau o ke kauwela, aloha! Aia ʻoe ma ke ala pololei. Inā ʻaʻole, ʻaʻole pono e hopohopo. ʻAʻole i lohi ka hoʻokomo ʻana i nā hana i loko o ke ola o kā mākou mau keiki. Eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaka!
E lilo lākou i ʻāpana o ia mea
Ke hoʻolauna nei i ka manaʻo o kāu mau keiki e hoʻopau ana i nā hana e kōkua ai, e hana i kahi "halawai ʻohana" kahi e noho ai nā mea a pau e kūkākūkā i nā mea e manaʻo ʻia mai kāu mau keiki a me ke kumu. Hiki iā ʻoe ke noi i kāu keiki e kōkua iā ʻoe e kākau i kahi papa inoa o nā hana i hiki iā lākou ke kōkua a puni ka hale. Hiki paha iā lākou ke kahaha iā ʻoe me ko lākou hoihoi ʻoiai ʻo ka hana ʻana i nā hana he mea hoihoi loa ia no kekahi mau keiki no ka mea e manaʻo ai lākou i ka mana a me ke kōkua. (ʻelua mau mea a mākou e makemake ai e like me nā mākua).
Pāʻani-ify It
E leʻaleʻa i nā mea, no ka mea, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā mea a pau, Hiki iā ʻoe a i kāu keiki ke kākau i nā hana ma nā lāʻau popsicle a i kēlā me kēia lā hiki i kāu keiki ke koho i hoʻokahi lāʻau mai ka ipu.. ʻO ia kā lākou hana no ka lā! Inā ʻoi aku kāu keiki ma mua o hoʻokahi ma ka home, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi mau i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i hoʻokūkū ma ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i kahi manawa a ʻike i ke keiki hiki ke hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka hapa nui o nā mea pāʻani i ka manawa i hāʻawi ʻia., ʻo kahi laʻana.
E uku ia
E like me nā mākua, uku ʻia mākou no kā mākou hāʻawi ʻana i ka hana me ka uku. ʻAʻole anei e uku ʻia kā mākou mau keiki no kā lākou hana nui? Hoʻokahi manaʻo inā hoʻopau kāu keiki i kāna mau hana a pau no ka pule, hiki iā ia ke koho i kahi mea pāʻani liʻiliʻi mai kahi "pahu waiwai" i piha i nā mea pāʻani liʻiliʻi. ʻO kahi koho ʻē aʻe paha inā hoʻopau kāu keiki i nā hana no hoʻokahi mahina, hiki iā lākou ke koho i kahi huakaʻi ʻohana kūikawā ʻē aʻe.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ke aʻo ʻana i kā mākou mau keiki e hana i nā hana, akā, kūpono nā pōmaikaʻi i ka manawa a me ka hoʻoikaika. Manaʻo mākou ua ʻike ʻoe i kā mākou mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, a hiki iā lākou ke kōkua i ke alakaʻi ʻana i kahi ʻike maikaʻi no ʻoe a me kāu keiki. Hauʻoli hoʻomaʻemaʻe!
