Peb paub tias muaj ntau yam uas peb tuaj yeem ua tau los txhawb nqa thiab cob qhia peb cov menyuam, uas yog vim li cas cov niam txiv peb feem ntau mus ntev heev los ua kom tiav lawv lub sijhawm nrog kev txhawb nqa kev ua ub no thiab chav kawm. Vim li cas peb ua li no? Rau ntau yam yog vim li cas, tab sis lub hom phiaj tseem ceeb yog ua kom lawv txoj kev vam meej yav tom ntej. Cov niam txiv cia siab tias lawv cov menyuam yuav muaj kev vam meej hauv lub neej dua li lawv tus kheej. Kev vam meej, tau kawg, yog subjective, thiab peb txhua tus yuav muaj peb tus kheej txhais ntawm kev vam meej. Txawm li cas los xij, peb yuav pom zoo tias kev vam meej suav nrog kev xav hauv ib tus kheej lub neej, zoo li muaj kev nkag siab ntawm kev txaus siab rau kev ua haujlwm thiab kev ruaj ntseg nyiaj txiag.
Tsis ntev los no tau muaj kev txaus siab TED Tham tau qhia hauv kev tshaj xov xwm, nyob rau hauv uas yav tas los Dean ntawm Freshman ntawm Stanford University, Julie Lythcott-Haims, hais txog cov pov thawj los ntawm Harvard Grant Study uas cuam tshuam txog kev ua haujlwm zoo hauv lub neej rau cov tib neeg uas tau ua haujlwm raws li menyuam yaus. Tsis yog kev cob qhia ncaws pob, tsis yog kawm lus, tsis painting, tab sis ua haujlwm.
Xav tsis thoob txoj cai?
Coob leej ntawm peb cov menyuam loj hlob hauv nroog loj yuav tsis paub tias nws nyiam ua dab tsi, ntxuav lub qhov rais, los yog mop ib pem teb. Tej zaum peb yuav xav tias muaj ntau yam tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau ua los txhim kho lawv txoj kev paub thiab lawv tus cwj pwm. Lythcott-Haims piav qhia tias cov menyuam yaus uas ua rau lawv txhais tes qias neeg, txawm li cas los xij, tuaj yeem ncav cuag ib theem ntawm kev vam meej hauv lub neej uas tshaj lawv cov phooj ywg uas tsis ua haujlwm. Qhov ntawd yog vim nws qhia cov tub ntxhais kawm txog kev pab txhawb thiab nce qib thaum ua haujlwm yuav tsum ua, thiab qhov uas ua "ua haujlwm tsis txaus siab" uas lwm tus yuav thuam, vim nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws rau txhua tus, yog qhov tau pom hauv chaw ua haujlwm.
Cov chaw ua haujlwm ntawm cov neeg ua tiav siab uas tau koom nrog hauv Harvard Grant Study yog qhov tseem ceeb, xws li lub Tsev Dawb, qhov twg Thawj Tswj Hwm Kennedy tau ua haujlwm, thiab tus editor lub chaw ua haujlwm uas Ben Bradlee zaum ua tus editor ntawm Washington Post. Peb tuaj yeem xav tias lawv niam lawv txiv, zoo li peb, yuav tsum tau tsim thiab thov kom ua haujlwm, thiab lees txais qhov ntawd txawm tias lawv tau ua tiav, tej zaum lawv yuav tsis tau ua zoo; thiab qhov ntawd tsis ua li cas.
Qhov tseem ceeb, raws li Lythcott-Haims taw qhia, yog tias ua haujlwm, cov menyuam paub tias lawv, “…yuav tsum ua txoj hauj lwm ntawm lub neej thiaj li ua tau ib feem ntawm lub neej.” Lawv paub tias lub neej tsis yog tshwm sim rau lawv xwb, thiab rau lawv, tab sis nrog lawv.
Yog tias koj cov menyuam twb tau ua haujlwm ua ib feem ntawm lawv lub caij ntuj sov txhua hnub, siab tawv! Koj nyob ntawm txoj kev. Yog tsis yog, tsis tas yuav ceeb. Nws yeej tsis lig dhau los qhia txoj haujlwm hauv peb lub neej. Nov yog qee cov lus qhia los pab koj pib!
Cia Lawv Ua Ib feem ntawm Nws
Thaum qhia txog lub tswv yim ntawm koj cov menyuam ua tiav cov haujlwm los pab, muaj "tsev neeg lub rooj sib tham" qhov twg txhua tus tuaj yeem tham txog dab tsi yuav xav tau ntawm koj cov menyuam thiab vim li cas. Koj tuaj yeem hais kom koj tus menyuam pab koj sau cov haujlwm uas lawv tuaj yeem pab tau nyob ib puag ncig lub tsev. Tej zaum lawv yuav ua rau koj xav tsis thoob nrog lawv qhov kev txaus siab vim ua haujlwm yog qhov zoo siab heev rau qee tus menyuam yaus vim nws ua rau lawv xav tias muaj zog thiab pab tau. (ob yam uas peb feem ntau nyiam xav ua neeg laus).
Game-ify It
To make things fun, because fun makes everything better, you or your child can write the chores on popsicle sticks and each day your child can choose one stick from the jar. That will be their chore for the day! If you have more than one child at home, you can always turn cleaning into a competition by setting a timer and seeing which child can clean the most toys in the given amount of time, piv txwv.
Reward It
Raws li niam txiv, we are rewarded for our contributions at work with a salary. Shouldn’t our children also be rewarded for their hard work? One idea is that if your child completes all of his or her chores for the week, he or she can choose a small toy from a “treasure box” filled with small toys. Lwm qhov kev xaiv yog tias koj tus menyuam ua haujlwm tas li rau ib hlis, lawv tuaj yeem xaiv qhov tshwj xeeb hauv tsev neeg tawm mus.
Qhia peb cov me nyuam ua hauj lwm tsis yog ib qho yooj yim, tab sis cov txiaj ntsig muaj peev xwm tsim nyog rau lub sijhawm thiab kev siv zog. Peb vam tias koj pom peb cov lus qhia muaj txiaj ntsig, thiab lawv tuaj yeem pab ua kom muaj kev paub zoo rau koj thiab koj tus menyuam. Zoo siab ntxuav!
