Siyazi ukuba kuninzi esinokukwenza ukukhulisa nokufundisa abantwana bethu, yiyo loo nto njengabazali sihlala sisenza umgama omde wokugcwalisa ixesha labo ngemisebenzi etyebisayo kunye neeklasi. Kutheni sisenza oku? Ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi kunjalo, kodwa eyona njongo iphambili kukuqinisekisa impumelelo yabo yexesha elizayo. Abazali banethemba lokuba abantwana babo baya kuphumelela ngakumbi ebomini kunokuba babenjalo bona. Impumelelo, kanjalo, ixhomekeke, kwaye sonke sinokuba nenkcazo yethu yempumelelo. Ngokubanzi kodwa, sinokuvuma ukuba impumelelo ibandakanya ukuziva umxholo kubomi bomntu bomntu, nokuba nemvakalelo yokwaneliseka kwikhondo lomsebenzi kunye nokhuseleko lwezemali.
Kutshanje kukho iNtetho yeTED enika umdla ekwabelwana ngayo kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo, apho owayesakuba yiDini yeFreshman kwiYunivesithi yaseStanford, UJulie Lythcott-Haims, ucaphula ubungqina obuvela kwiSifundo seSibonelelo seHarvard esinxibelelanisa impumelelo yobungcali ebomini kubantu abenze imisebenzi yasekhaya njengabantwana. Hayi uqeqesho lwebhola ekhatywayo, hayi ukufunda ulwimi, hayi ukupeyinta, kodwa imisebenzi.
Ilungelo elimangalisayo?
Uninzi lwabantwana bethu abakhulela kwizixeko ezikhulu abanakuze bazi ukuba kunjani ukukhuhla isitya, hlamba ifestile, okanye ukorobhe umgangatho. Sinokuziva ngathi kukho izinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi ekufuneka zenziwe ukwakha ulwazi lwabo kunye nesimilo sabo. ULythcott-Haims uchaza ukuba abo bantwana bangcolisa izandla zabo, nangona kunjalo, banokufikelela kwinqanaba lempumelelo ebomini eligqwesa oontanga babo abangaphangeliyo. Kungenxa yokuba ifundisa abafundi indlela yokufaka igalelo kunye nokunyuka xa umsebenzi kufuneka wenziwe, nokwenza “umsebenzi wokukrokra” abanokuthi abanye bawugculele, kuba yeyona nto ilungileyo kubo bonke, yeyona nto ibonwayo emsebenzini.
Iindawo zokusebenza zabaphumelele kakhulu abathathe inxaxheba kuphononongo lweSibonelelo seHarvard zaziphawuleka, njenge-White House, apho uMongameli uKennedy wayesebenza khona, kunye neofisi yomhleli apho uBen Bradlee wayehleli njengomhleli weWashington Post. Sinokucinga ukuba abazali babo, njengathi, kwafuneka aqhube kwaye abongoze ukuba imisebenzi yenziwe, kwaye ukwamkele oko nokuba zenziwe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ayenziwanga kakuhle; kwaye oko kulungile.
Into ebalulekileyo, njengoko uLythcott-Haims ebonisa, kukuba ngokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, abantwana bayaqonda ukuba, "... kufuneka wenze umsebenzi wobomi ukuze ube yinxalenye yobomi." Bayaqonda ukuba ubomi abuzenzekeli kubo, kunye nabo, kodwa kunye bona.
Ukuba abantwana bakho sele besenza imisebenzi yasekhaya njengenxalenye yendlela yabo yemihla ngemihla yasehlotyeni, bravo! Ukwindlela elungileyo. Ukuba akukho njalo, akukho mfuneko yokoyika. Akukaze kube kudala kakhulu ukwazisa imisebenzi yasekhaya kubomi babantwana bethu. Nanga amanye amacebiso okukunceda ukuba uqalise!
Mababe Yinxalenye Yalo
Xa usazisa ingcamango yabantwana bakho ukugqiba imisebenzi yasekhaya ukunceda, yiba “nentlanganiso yentsapho” apho wonk’ ubani ekho ukuze axubushe ngoko kuya kulindeleka kubantwana bakho nesizathu sokuba. Unokucela umntwana wakho ukuba akuncede ubhale uludwe lwemisebenzi yasekhaya anokunceda kuyo yonke indlu. Basenokukothusa ngomdla wabo njengoko ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya kuyonwabisa kakhulu kwabanye abantwana kuba kubenza bazive bexhotyisiwe kwaye beluncedo. (izinto ezimbini esidla ngokuthanda ukuziva njengabantu abadala).
Umdlalo-Yilungise
Ukwenza izinto zibe mnandi, kuba ukuzonwabisa kwenza yonke into ibe ngcono, wena okanye umntwana wakho ningabhala imisebenzi yasekhaya kwiintonga zepopsicle kwaye suku ngalunye umntwana wakho angakhetha intonga enye ejagini. Oko kuya kuba ngumsebenzi wabo wosuku! Ukuba unomntwana omnye ekhaya, ungasoloko ujikela ukucoca kukhuphiswano ngokuseta isibali-xesha kwaye ubone ukuba ngowuphi na umntwana onokucoca ezona zinto zokudlala zininzi kwixesha elinikiweyo., umzekelo.
Yivuze
Njengabazali, sivuzwa ngegalelo lethu emsebenzini ngomvuzo. Akufanelanga ukuba abantwana bethu nabo bavuzwe ngomsebenzi wabo onzima? Enye ingcamango kukuba ukuba umntwana wakho ugqiba yonke imisebenzi yakhe yeveki, unokukhetha ithoyizi encinci "kwibhokisi yobuncwane" ezaliswe ngamathoyizi amancinci. Enye inketho inokuba kukuba umntwana wakho uhlala egqiba ukwenza imisebenzi yenyanga, banokukhetha uhambo olulodwa olukhethekileyo losapho.
Ukufundisa abantwana bethu ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya akusoloko kulula, kodwa iingenelo ezinokubakho zifanele ixesha nomgudu. Siyathemba ukuba ufumene iingcebiso zethu ziluncedo, kwaye banokunceda ukukhokelela kumava akhuthazayo kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Ukucoca ngovuyo!
